Private & Together Coaching
with Paula Parker
Programs for active women over 35 ready to end overindulging with food and alcohol so they can become the strongest and healthiest versions of themselves, inside and out.
Use your mind, not willpower to stop overeating, become metabolically flexible, release excess body fat and finally feel in charge around food.
Do you know what to do but just can’t stay consistent long enough to wear every item of clothing in your closet?
With this program you’ll go from…
- White-knuckling your way through your evenings as the cheese and crackers call your name…to being immensely satisfied with a ginger lemon tea and your book.
- Thinking I’ll start over tomorrow, overindulging then dealing with the remorse hangover that lingers into the next day…to being a take-it-or-leave-it person when it comes to sweets.
- Staring into your closet lamenting about what to wear...to enjoying getting dressed and feeling comfortable and stylish in all your clothes.
- Having a piece of cake or glass of wine you don’t need so that your host doesn’t feel bad…to graciously turning it down with ease and zero guilt or embarrassment.
- Going to bed feeling overly full and regretful about having seconds at dinner (it was so delicious!) but now your sleep will suffer…to feeling nourished, content and proud that you honored your body and yourself.
I‘ve worked with hundreds of women just like you who workout and generally eat very healthy, but have excess weight and don't feel comfortable in their own skin.
...Relatable?
Maybe like them you take care of others - you never bail on a lunch date with a friend but when it comes to planning your meals for the day or taking a few quiet moments to journal your innermost thoughts, you’re too busy.
You set good intentions to eat right but after a couple of weeks something happens and you stop, then you subtly beat yourself up about it thinking: I know better!
The tricks that worked in your 20’s and 30’s just don’t make a difference now. You’d never say it aloud but you think it’s unfair that it feels so hard all the time.
You know you should be grateful for your health and body, and you are! But then you find yourself still desperately wanting to not think about food and your weight all the time. That light of desire will not rest.
How many times have you vowed to do better only to come home from a long day, scroll on your phone snacking on nuts and taco chips so that by the time dinner’s ready you’re not even hungry. But you eat it anyway, add a glass of wine and feel terrible when you wake up.
You know you're capable of more.
You are a great fit for this program if you are ready to…
- Notice more muscle tone and fit into your tightest pants easily.
- Enjoy a night out with your husband feeling energized and content leaving the restaurant.
- Eat only when you’re hungry, stop at enough and choose foods that serve you every day, even on weekends!
- Have such an identity shift that indulging occasionally is fun and overindulging with food and alcohol just seems absurd.
- Plan for a trip without calculating how much weight you can lose before you go.
- Have good quality sleep, no joint pain and stable energy throughout the day.
- Experience more pleasure from your life and less deprivation from food and alcohol.
I don't have the knee or leg pain I'd have just walking down the block. I like waking up in the morning and feeling lighter and going on hikes!
Listen to Sue's StorySue, Age: 60's, 50 lbs released
I was surprised that I could see myself differently because I've struggled with my weight all my life. Food doesn't boss me around like it used to, and so I'm much more at peace.
Listen to Cynthia's StoryCynthia, Age 60's, 45 lbs released
I have the best job in the world, because I get to witness my clients experience things like this...(These are all REAL client experiences I’ve saved):
- Releasing over 20 lbs at 64 after a lifetime of dieting and struggle and not worrying about gaining the weight back.
- Telling me that for the first time in their life they don’t feel like they’re on a diet, and the weight is coming off.
- Enjoying waffles on Sunday morning with zero remorse and without it triggering an overindulging spiral of snacking all day thinking, I’ll start over tomorrow.
- Being able to go over 4 hours without feeling intense hunger pangs because their body is fat adapted and metabolically flexible.
- Go to their son’s wedding wearing an amazing dress and beam with pride in the photos.
- Trust themselves to enjoy trying new and delicious foods and drinks on their trip to Italy without gaining a single pound.
- Stop judging themselves harshly when they’ve “screwed up” with their eating and instead ask themselves, “What do I need to come into balance?”
- Not avoiding their reflection in store windows anymore, but feeling comfortable in their own skin and personal style.
- Applying “weight-loss coaching” to every aspect of their lives - healthy boundaries with the PTA, having a nervous system support strategy to navigate the dating apps and even enjoying phone calls with their mother just the way she is (amazing right?)
Guess what? Your hunch is right. A meal plan is just not enough.
Mindful Shape is not your traditional weight loss program because together we lower your overdesire for food and alcohol to match your desired body so you don’t want more than you need.
We address both the physiology of fat loss and muscle building, but also the psychological reasons you’ve been turning to food or alcohol.
I call this overdesire, in which both your body and brain want more food or alcohol than you need.
First, I’ll help you develop a personalized protocol, aka a strategy for eating and making food decisions specific to your unique goals and preferences, that will encourage your body to become Metabolically flexible and fat adapted. This means you’ll have more energy, less cravings, burn body fat, be less hungry, feel satiated with less on your plate and you don’t gain the weight back the minute you indulge because your body uses carbohydrates efficiently.
As a coach my job is to help you change what you’re doing, in this case how you’re eating or drinking, and being, qualities like resilience, determination and self-compassion rather than frustration so that you can achieve you feel as good in your body as possible, for as long as possible.
To do that we need two types of self-awareness: conceptual awareness (I understand why I do what I do) and embodied awareness (I know what I’m feeling).
Coaching works because you as the client are actively increasing this self-awareness required for change within a safe space in which I will be actively listening for:
- what it is you want to be doing,
- what’s getting in your way
- and how you need to change to get what you want.
What we’ll focus on within the 5 step Mindful Shape Process:
You’ll learn: 2 principles, 9 frameworks, 6 exercises and 10 practical tools to reduce overdesire so you stop turning to food to cope with stress, quickly get back on track after overindulging and push through every plateau.
Activate Desire
First you’ll get clear on what you want and learn how to infuse that goal with desire so it doesn’t feel like another “should” in your life but fills you with aliveness.
If it’s a drag the whole time, what’s the point?
You’ll learn how to make eating optimally for your health and body both interesting and enjoyable.
Strategize for Metabolic Flexibility
Learn a personalized decision-making framework for eating only when you’re physically hungry, stopping at “enough” and choosing foods that serve you to become fat adapted and metabolically flexible.
This means you’ll have more energy, less cravings, burn body fat, be less hungry, feel satiated with less on your plate and you don’t gain the weight back the minute you indulge.
Take Aligned Action to Handling Cravings and Urges to Overeat & Over drink
Become a take-it-or-leave-it person with sugar, flour and alcohol by learning the five 1 Minute Mindfulness mindset and embodiment tools to stay the course even when the chips, wine or cookies are calling your name.
You’ll get out of the clean plate club and put the fork down even when the food is delicious.
Alchemize Emotion to Lower an Overdesire for Food
When you don’t want more food or alcohol than your body needs, you truly can eat and drink whatever you want.
I’ll help you match your level of desire for food and alcohol to your desired weight, you’re able to follow any eating plan you want.
Expand Capacity to Shift Into the Next Version of Yourself
If you’ve been struggling with food and body issues for years, this is an opportunity to completely transform how you think about yourself, your body and what food and alcohol is doing for you.
Instead of relying on motivation that comes and goes, you’ll simply be the person who eats well because it’s just who you are.
When you expand your current cognitive and emotional capacity; your ability to direct your thinking and process every emotion, eating to nourish and strengthen your body is natural.
This is for you if...
- You know how to eat healthy, but still you’re turning to food and alcohol after a long day to have fun with others, and relax during weekends and evenings.
- You’re done with deprivation diets but secretly want your body to match who you are on the inside.
- You work out regularly but aren’t releasing body fat or seeing visible tone.
- You feel as though you’re letting yourself down in this area because you’re so accomplished and successful in the rest of your life.
- You make progress but can’t figure out why you keep self-sabotaging when you really do care about your health and want to look and feel your best.
- You often have a battle raging in your head in which you want more food but also want to reach a weight loss goal.
- You’re a seeker. You know the way forward is mindset, working with emotions (not numbing them) and cultivating a deeper connection with herself, not another diet.
- You are ready to commit to high-level support, self-inquiry, and self-accountability
We can make our own rules and we know our bodies better than anybody. Now I refuse to allow anything external to dictate what I do to feel healthy and good about myself.
Doing what I want to do and what feels right gives me such a sense of empowerment that motivates me to take action because I'm like, I'm in control. I'm doing this for me.
Listen to Marilyn's StoryMarilyn, Age: 30's, 40 lbs released
Weight loss is a portal into knowing myself. I couldn't believe that I got down to my goal and it was so doable!
Listen to Karen's StoryKaren, Age: 40's, 20 lbs released
What results can you expect doing this program?
By the first few weeks...
By 3 months...
By 6 months +...
Hi, I’m Paula
Let me tell you a little about me and how I got here.
Many years ago I hired a life coach (this was when it was still pretty obscure and weird unless you were Madonna). Think going to therapy in the 80’s.
Anyway, it really helped me understand myself and started me on a path of repairing the low fat dieting/body image damage that was the late 90’s/early 2000’s.
Then I spent a small fortune on coach training and certifications and have spent the last decade helping other women who got off course with food and their weight and want to feel good in their bodies.
My work is here to help you transform; to make any change that seems unchangeable to you. Because it’s not whether the transformation is happening — it is. You are reborn every single day. Instead of struggling against it, I’m here to help you understand it and to learn to work with it.
My methods are based on cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), neuroscience, embodiment coaching (somatics), with a dash of shadow work and ancient wisdom.
I live in a majestic part of the world called Victoria on Vancouver Island, Canada with my husband and two little kids.
Questions you might have right now:
I'm in! Should I do Private Coaching or the Together Program?
What exactly is a “protocol”?
Will I be counting calories and macros?
I’m currently taking GLP-1s. Would this still be a good fit for me?
How much weight can I expect to release?
It’s a bold act to claim what you want for yourself and this one body you have in this lifetime.
This program is about shifting into a new version of yourself by reprogramming both your conscious mind: how you think and feel daily and your subconscious mind, because external changes are created from your inner world.
This is the most important work you can do because you will never go further than how you see yourself. What you believe yourself directly capable of.
You don’t have to do this alone or wait for the “right” time to say YES to that nudge inside.
Enjoying and taking optimal care of the body you have now just might be the most radical and strategic act toward becoming who you most want to be.
Contact:
paula @mindfulshape.com
INSTAGRAM: @mindful_shape
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